When I grow up...

"What do you want to do when you are older" the favourite question for adults to ask children from the age of 5 to 15. The answer being fireman, postman, doctor, nurse or any other job they have recently heard of at school or in books. No one knows every single job in the world by the age of 5 or  even 15, so why ask them a question they can't properly answer?!? Reason being because society expects an answer. You don't have to stick to it but you need to be shown to have paid some thought into what you could do in the future. But why? Why should we always be thinking ahead instead savouring the moments we are in right now? Yesterday's history, tomorrow's a mystery and today is a gift, that's why we call it the present. A good saying which needs to be remembered. But by the age of 15 we are expected to have grasped what profession we want to go into, and should be preparing for universtiy and planning out our career path. Should we be setting up a personal pension by this age as well?!?

Also, why is there this big expectation for every human being to go to universtiy after A levels are complete. Is it really necessary for more exams, more studying, more endless hours spent in a classroom? I can understand that for some jobs you need a degree, like really really need it. A doctor for example. But why oh why after I say I want to go into entertainment do people ask what Uni I am considering. The arts is a tricky industry to go into and you are certainly not garuanteed a job, so why put yourself into twenty seven thousand pounds of debt, just to put "degree" on a cv, that casting agents at an audition will barely glance at. It certainly doesn't add up to me...how about you? I guess you could say my argument is subjective, but here is a better cause for concern. How can you say you want to go to Uni, but you don't know what you would study. Not like, "I can't decide between engineering or accounting" but you have no clue at all what you would study. How then can you say you want to go? If it was free, then this is just about acceptable, but you are forfeiting TWENTY SEVEN THOUSAND POUNDS for an "experience", when really you should be looking at the bigger picture and about whether a three year course will actually get you a job or not. And see this is really what is so bad about "what do you want to do when you are older". It sparks of thoughts which aren't thinkable, it encourages stupidity rather than capability.

So really, like Jack Howard said in a YouTube video a few months ago, "ask children what they like to do, rather than what they want to do". This will gain more rational answers, leading to more rational decisions. I mean, does a five year old really comprehend the work involved in becoming a doctor? Maybe gently tell them it's at least a five year course and see if they change their answer!

Another ranting style of post, but hopefully you agree with some of my thoughts.

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Like Crazy a true love story

" I thought I understood it...but I didn't
   Only the smudgeness of it...the eagerness of it
        The idea of it...of you and me "

These words are in the trailer for "Like Crazy" and i think they sum up the idea of love. I'm not going to go all soppy and start talking about love as some big romantic gesture...we are in the 21st century. Im not even thinking about marriage or babies or anything as serious as that, just love and what defines the relationship you may have at 15 or 16.

I've got friends with boyfriends and friends without, myself coming under the without category *sad face*. Though I've found myself not knowing what to do. I mean who teaches you what to do, what to say, how to act and the most important: what not to do. It's like a secret code that your either given or you spend years trying all the different orders of numbers until you get into the safe, or something else if we are going to be more literal ;) I am just about to open the safe though I don't think I've quite got the numbers in the right order yet, and coming from an all girls school, talking to a boy is frankly one of the most terrifying experiences I go through at the moment. It's like my brain goes into overdrive and I always over think: does he like me, why is he looking at me, should I talk to him, should I ask him out...no I'll just smile, wait, is he smiling back...he's walking away, does he want me to follow? stuff like that is never a good way to think. I've learnt that you can't think of yourself as the only person in the world. If you think like that you'll become overconfident and really embarrass yourself.

I'm not saying don't be confident...have some confidence but be wary of what the boy your talking to could actually be thinking, rather than what you want him to think, which is probably an extract from a rom-com rather than an actual 21st century occurrence. But don't worry, that's what we are all led to believe.

Flashed in front of our eyes, film after film showing happy endings. I think that's why "Like Crazy" is such a good film because it ends subjectively. Some may believe their relationship will improve, but really it shows how there is no perfect ending which I think is an important message to show. Yes there is love in the world, but there is also hardship and that is what makes us stronger. Also the words "I thought I understood it...but I didn't" convey what many people go through at the start, middle and end of a relationship plus anywhere in between. But why should you understand? Schools are quick to teach sex education but they miss out the step before that: actually meeting a guy who wants to do that with you. Though I don't blame them, I wouldn't know where to start. And I guess that's what's tricky, understanding "the smudgeness of it...the eagerness of it" and all that. Knowing what to say, what to do, how to act and what not to do, it all comes with time. I still haven't perfected it but I'm better than I was...though the biggest mistake I make is getting desperate. Wanting someone, anyone, so much that I launch myself onto any boy I see, but that isn't how it works.

Patience is a virtue and with patience comes understanding. Rushing in "Like Crazy" leads to heart break and realisation that you don't really know the situation you are in...something you really should avoid if at all possible.

So to sum up this rather gushy post, I would advise to step back and see the situation you are in, and know that you are not alone. Everyone went through the time you are going through now and it's always good to learn from mistakes, though if you don't want to make any find a friend with a boyfriend and start observing...obviously not in a stalkerish way though!

Thank you for reading, hope it helped! bye for now xxxx

GCSE's and all that jazz...

So it's getting to that time of year where exams occur. I've actually got my first one in less than two weeks and I feel as though I should have read a survival guide before signing up for GCSE's. I mean there's a part of me that doesn't really care, but it's like there is a silent voice inside slowly eating away at my competence and telling me to jump out my window and run every night. I suppose if you break it down then there's nothing to be scared of. A solo desk, exam paper and silence doesn't sound too daunting, but it's the prospect of failure that's ringing in everyone's ears, deafening some and awakening others. 

One hour of your life yet it has such a big impact. And there is no going back. 

Teachers dictating your revision plan yet expectations to already know everything are sky high. For some reason we are all expected to turn into freakishly organised parrots: repeating everything we have been told over the last two years, turning a folder of work into that perfect grade. I think I'd prefer a jail sentence, though really that's what this is...

This isn't a choice, we have been forced to do this, and yet the outcome is so vital. No wonder there are suicide watchers in some schools. But is that right? We are expected to know what to do, to have a plan, yet there is still so much we don't know. Who can say what the future holds? I certainly can't, and I suppose that's what this blog post is really about. Not me ranting about how I hate life because basically I haven't done enough work and my exams are scarily close, but me saying what is in the back of everyone else's mind currently preparing for an exam. Yes it seems like the whole world is resting on you getting that golden grade, but in the real world, the one where you are not expected to know whether the head of an emulsifier is hydrophobic or hydrophilic, none of that really matters. In forty years time you won't remember any of this, and your certificate with those oh so important grades on will be in a box in the attic, gathering dust (harsh but true). So I guess what I'm trying to say is, work hard and get the grades you want (or in some cases need) to get, because why waste this opportunity. Though always remember that your life doesn't depend on whether you get that B or A*. You can decide what your future holds, and that is the most important thing :) 

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